Heart Of A Soul Surfer


The only reason we can perceive anything is because of self / the soul.

If you don't find the soul profound, you're missing out on life JUD.

It's a shame you need 'belief' to fill in for the missing 'awe' that gives meaning to everyday life.

1 2017-02-02 17:35:21 - Bree

Mr. Blow,
Your writing is so beautifully transparent and courageous in it's vulnerability and creative profundity. What a rare gift to share your very intimate, human realities without any sense of dramatizing victimization or emotional indulgence. Yes, you ran and got your gun. You were in touch with your heart. Fortunately you got back in touch with your head very quickly, especially considering that you were plunged into the re-stimulation of your life's worst experience and memory of a most terrible violation as a child.
I don't relate with the "demon" part, or the guilt or self-loathing stuff. But that's just me. Straight, self-loving, me.
Since you have written so forthrightly, and exhibit such wisdom and self-inquiry in this piece, my favorite I can ever remember of yours (and my first time commenting on your work) you might enjoy exploring some eastern writings, if you have not already, on the glory of the eternal human spirit. Assuming the perspective that this is just one body of countless ones you have had over eons. And considering the viewpoint that your ultimate liberation will be not your identification with yourself as a body, as male or female, straight, gay or bi, but, OMG, will the Times print this, your identification with yourself as God. Yes, totally divine and unique, just like everyone else. To paraphrase Steinbeck in The Grapes of Wrath, "Sometimes I think we don't have a soul. That we're all just part of one, great big soul." It's enlightening.

78 2016-10-16 22:41:05 - William Alan Shirley

I don't see the examples noted in the column as evidence of 'soul searching'. They are journalists pointing out their views, not that they are suddenly re-examining those views. It would be helpful if Mr. Friedman with his great contacts in these governments could see if there is any soul searching going on there.

0 2016-03-01 13:26:13 - David

As a Jew who teaches at a Buddhist school, and takes part in study sessions, I am ambivalent about the teachings of Buddhism. On the positive side, there is a beautiful sense of connection to be found which pervades daily life here and does go a long way to ease all of the tension of "me-thinking." However, I do feel that the teaching that there is no soul is dangerous, if it is not balanced with a teaching, such as Judaism, which does affirm the existence and beauty of the soul in all of us.

1 2015-10-10 00:38:14 - David

Oh, I dunno ...
I think President Bush saw Putin's soul because they really were soul mates.
But Bush simply doesn't have Putin's skill, determination, and ruthlessness.
... Now, Cheney on the other hand ...

139 2015-06-28 09:40:04 - Dan Mabbutt

This is the usual litany from the Stone - it sounds reasonable on the surface, a compromise - but there is lots of evidence for a body, there is no evidence for a soul - the author speaks about a "bifocal" approach, but gives no evidence other than our feelings for the existance of free will or the soul - please save me from people who make reasonably sounding arguments, appealing to our intutition but have no evidence other than our own predjudice.

4 2014-12-03 02:42:55 - Dr J

It isn't confession that's good for the soul.

It's understanding and acceptance of the soul, complications and all, that provide buoyance. In so doing, buoyance seems really, really good.

Thanks for a wonderfully written column.

17 2014-11-15 13:06:14 - Dave T.

In a way, I'm almost glad my parents died of cancer quickly to avoid these horrors. I cannot fathom how countries with socialized medicine can provide humane care for less money and here we had a poor soul tortured to his end days at the cost of $1 million.

My heart goes out to Ms. Stefanidis. Please forgive yourself. You did your utmost to help your father. The system failed you, my dear madame. I wish you peace and the satisfaction of trying your best out of love for your father. That's all you could have done, and if you could have done more, you would have done it, come hell or high water.

18 2014-11-15 10:56:54 - LMC

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